If you have lived for any time at all, you have probably experienced the feeling of seeing your own imperfections. We are all imperfect people living in an imperfect world. We are flawed. We typically discover our flaws by inward inspection or external exchanges.
Before I was full-time pursuing my dream of being a published author and content creator, I worked in church leadership. My job was to grow the student ministry. I worked for a church in Mississippi and two different churches in Albuquerque, New Mexico where I currently live.
One of the greatest struggles in my life is my tendency to jump to conclusions very quickly. I over-read into things people say or do. I run out situations in my mind as to why someone is mad at me.
The great inventor Thomas Edison once said, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
This quote breaks my heart and it should break your heart, too.
The past few weeks have been filled with an abudance of mixed emotions. On one hand, I feel encouraged as I look at all the opportunity for personal growth and progress in my life. On the other hand, I feel discouraged as I look at those who are farther along in their journey. It is easy to fall into that trap.
One of the greatest blessings in my life is the relationship I have with my father. My dad is a dreamer. I can remember my dad always encouraging my siblings and I to dream bigger whether it was in baseball, volleyball, business, or really any realm of life. My favorite memories as a child are those where my dad would get going on one of his famous rants. My dad was passionate about setting goals and how we could achieve them.
“Strength grows in the moments when you think you can’t go on but you keep going anyway.” Ed Mylett
I woke up this morning and had no desire to get out of bed. My head hurt, my body was tired, and my motivation was running on empty. I hopped on Instagram and went straight to the account of Ed Mylett.
I was recently complaining to a good friend of mine about not being as good as some of the people that I look to as examples. I was talking about how talented and successful they are while simultaneously complaining about how I am not good enough. After spending about thirty minutes complaining, I was hit with this sobering truth:
I started training at a local Jiu Jitsu gym about a month ago. I started off strong by attending almost every class available for two weeks straight. I was obsessed for those two weeks. After going pretty consistently, I had to miss a class at the beginning of week three. Missing that one class sent me on a downward spiral that has resulted in me missing class for two weeks in a row. My pride was hurt that I missed that class and I was scared of my coach being disappointed, so I stopped going altogether..
It is so easy to find yourself surrounded by comfort and convenience. I have slowly started to realize that I love being comfortable. I don’t mean comfy on the couch. I mean comfortable with my goals, dreams, and effort in my everyday life. The biggest lesson that I am currently learning is that comfort is not often a good thing.
I had the opportunity to sit down with my brother today for lunch. I sat across from him and asked him for advice on how to move forward with transitions in my life. I had a bunch of internal conflict and I knew he would listen and give me some solid advice. He told me to be patient and calm down a little bit. If you don’t know me, please know that I am not a very patient or calm person. I want to jump into things 100% right out of the gate.
I had the opportunity to meet with a good friend of mine today. I try to meet with two to three mentors per week to pick their brains. Today we talked through the importance of training leaders to be informed and equipped to raise up other leaders. We were specifically talking about doing this in the context of church leadership.
“When we dare to focus, a thousand other things beg for our attention.”
Jon Acuff, Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done
Every time I try to work on a project, it seems like I am bombarded with a thousand distractions. This quote from Jon Acuff helped me realize the importance of being aware of distractions.
“The harder you try to be perfect, the less likely you’ll accomplish your goal.”
Jon Acuff, Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done
This thought from Jon Acuff was a game changer for me. I have always thought that goals and the process to achieve goals had to be this perfect, polished process. The idea that perfectionism actually hurts my ability to achieve goals flipped my world upside-down.
What would it take for you to impact one person’s life today?
I ask myself that question every day. I think we belittle the power of our influence. Everyday we are surrounded by people that want to be loved, noticed, and inspired. If you don’t believe me, ask the person next to you if they like being loved!